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Are you more or less constantly brooding about your weight, or whether you’re eating or not eating?

Do you find that sometimes once you start eating that you simply just can’t stop yourself? then when your clothes don’t fit does one plan to resolve that by eating more?

Often as a consequence of this common behaviour is that you simply will feel bad about yourself and picture that everybody is thinking how big you're , thus increasing your anxiety about your eating and image, in order that you eat more to comfort yourself.

You might not believe it yet there are steps you'll fancy get you out this self-destructive cycle and switch round the negative feelings that you simply experience.

When we are in these ‘mind-traps’ we are habitually repeating thought patterns and working on them hook line and sinker where they are available from and what they are doing for us.

A simple question such as: ‘What will that do for me?’ can often be the start of understanding ourselves better and our behaviour. Approaching the matter during this way are often the primary step towards doing things differently.

It works like this: a nasty experience gives you the urge to travel to the biscuit tin and eat as many biscuits as you'll . But this point , rather than binging on biscuits, as yourself: ‘What will that do for me?’

If the solution are some things like ‘It gives me a treat,’ ask yourself: ‘And if I even have this treat, what does that do for me?; Again, await your answer, it's going to be something like, ‘If I even have this treat then i will be able to feel appreciated.’ If this is often your response keep it up and ask yourself: ‘If i buy to feel appreciated, what does that do for me?’ Listen for a solution and keep asking yourself an equivalent question, until you'll go no further together with your responses. What you’re trying to find is that the higher motivation behind the behaviour ‘eating too many biscuits’. By doing this on a daily basis you'll get in-tuned with what you actually want and take your initiative to controlling the food cravings.

I worked with a client who was unhappy together with her weight and eating. Her name was Mary, a wife and dealing mother of two young boys. We did this exercise and she or he realised that she wanted to feel comforted.

When we checked out other aspects of her life it became clear that she never put herself first in terms of what she wanted and a method or another she now felt unappreciated and lacking.

Mary also realised that rarely gave her self permission to possess ‘me time’ to try to to things like soak during a luxurious bath, or leave with friends, or watch what she wanted on TV, These all could seem like small trivial things, but added together they became the source of her feelings of being invisible, not appreciated and usually unloved.

Mary worked on creating ways in which she could reward, comfort and appreciate herself that didn’t need to mean eating. Very soon she became very clear about her goals and the way to realize them. People round her noticed a change and responded by being more receptive and positive towards her. As a result, she easily shed weight, looked and was much happier, and forgot all about eating for comfort.